Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Beh Tahan...

There are so many types of people in this world and I knew that for sure. But there are some kind of people who are too much and yet they don't realize it themselves. What is the best way to tell them off? I can't just walk up to them, blab them right on the face right? Worst still, you have to face those people quite regularly.

Please tell me a way to tolerate this kind of people. I can tolerate and ignore them for once or twice but when it's happening too regularly, I think I really beh tahan..But once again, I have to tell myself...control...you blood pressure will be oozing high....calm down...

Let me know what do you think about these scenarios?

Scenario 1
A is a mother and B is a daughter and C is a son. A and B kept complaning to me that C just had a baby tiger and this is not good for him.Mana tahu when the baby is out, A and B told me that the baby came out at the right timing...and it brings luck to C. They kept bragging that the baby is so handsome, high nose, so fair...all the best things that you can mentioned. Do we call this perasan? Why are they complaining at the very first place? Beh Tahan....

Scenario 2
A is a mother and B is a daughter. B kept calling me to ask me where is her mother? How the hell would I know? She got hands got legs got wings...she can go wherever she wants. Then B starts complaining to me that someone influence her this and that, want to dis-own the mother, scolding the mum non stop. Why are they coming to tell me all these? I don't know any head or tail about the mother and come calling me as if scolding me. For godness sake, lock your mother at home. Throw her handphone away and that will solve the problem. Beh Tahan...X2.

Scenario 3
A is a MIL, B is a DIL/ SIL, C is son D is a soon to be bride. I got a phone one day from D and she was crying on the phone. Telling me that B is going to get married as she is pregnant and they are demanding C and D's house for their marriage. D was cursing B non stop and just don't get the point why she is doing so? First of all, the house is under the C's name and how can B wants the house? Secondly, what is so wrong about B getting married? I know what is D thinking..she is not happy because B is getting married earlier than her. She is not happy because B is getting more dowry than her. She just don't like her. Worst still, B told A that she got a baby boy and guess what D told me again? This woman action already because boy can get more property. Come on la, what is wrong with this people? Being rich is also a headache. Then weeks later she called me again telling me that doctor told them that the baby might had down syndrome. This is a very saddening case. I made a wild guess that it might cause by the liposuction that she did during B's early stage of pregnancy. A asked them to abort the baby but doctor was to advice them to take another test. Seems like the test was positive and D gave me a feeling that she felt that it's a punishment for B and she told me that B's family got genes of getting down syndrome kids.All I can say is...the baby is innocent, regardless how B treated you, the kid is innocent. Beh tahan...X3

Scenario 4
A is girl B is A's sister. A come telling me that how cute her nephew is. The nephew is almost the same age as my daughter. Then show me photos and video clips of the nephew non stop. How clever the nephew is. B is doing the same. Bragging as if it's their own son. Come on, don't I have a baby myself? Why do people need to praise the kid and put him up in heaven like he is so perfect? Your nephew is the best and other people's kid is nothing is it? You brag like other people doesn't exist and doesn't care about other poeple's feelings. My nephew knew how to do this, do that..All I can tell them is, I don't brag about my kid. Praising them once awhile is ok depending on the timing. I always tell them not to compare kids, how beautiful or how clever they are are god given, comparing kids will make the kid felt bad. I don't blame them as their mother was comparing me with them when I was a kid which result in them now. Stop comparing and stop bragging, just let the kid grow healthly. What will you get from bragging? Your nephew is the best izit?Duh....Beh Tahan....X4

Scenario 5
A is a pregnant woman. A is always very conscious about her outlook and body since she is quite pretty and petite herself and of course due to her occupation as well. She is now pregnant. Occasionally, I will have chats with her on the phone and it really makes me beh tahan. I want my baby to be pretty as me. Self praise and perasan....I told her, her husband looks good too, so don't really bother how the baby looks like. Even your husband's family has nice features. Most important the baby is healhty, that is what I asked for. She seems not able to get what I want to tell her. She will start telling me, look like her is good, pretty, petite....yee...don't want her daughter to look like the husband...". Well all these god given OK and we cannot demand. She has put on abit weight nowadays and she posted some photos of hers in FB and people kept praising her and she felt flattered as if she deserves it. She selected photos she look best to be posted on FB just to get those compliments. Where are the ones that are aren't so nice? If those people just want to be friends with you because how you look like, they don't deserve to be your friend.

Before this, when she first did her ultrasound scanning, the gynea told her that she will have a girl. She seems not happy and said that it's not confirm, so she wants to scan a few more rounds to confirm. What is wrong with having a daughter? Daughters are capable nowadays. They tend to be more loving and filial. She told me that, first baby is boy better. I knew this has to do with distribution of property. How come she has such a thinking like those olden folks last time?

I am quite angry with her and I told her to put herself in my shoes. My husband is the only son in the family, doesn't I felt more pressured? I got a daughter in my first pregnancy and she the apple of my eye.Her husband in the other hand has another 3 more younger brothers, why she has to worry about getting another generation for the family? Moreover it's her first pregnancy. Beh Tahan ...X5

Scenario 6
A is a pregnant lady. A always come asking me about pregnancy tips and I am more happy to tell her everything since I have experience in it. I gave her advices, I told her the dos and don'ts wishing her all the best in her pregnancy. But things doesn't seems to be that way. She is not appreciating it. I told you because I felt bad if I see you doing it but not telling you but she will just brushed me off like no other people's businesses. Hey come on, I can let you walk straight ahead and let you bang your head but what for? I cannot forgive myself if anything happen to you. If am bad enough, I can encourage you to eat more durians, eat more cockles, eat more raw food, eat more unhealthy foods....but what for? I advice you and you said it like "Y u so KEPOH?" From now onwards, I will not comment on anything she did as I already told her what I need to tell her. All I knew is, pregnancy takes nine months but if there is anything wrong with the baby it will take up the baby's whole life. Touch wood. Wishing her and the baby the best! Beh Tahan ....X6

Scenario 7
A is an aunty. A is always a person who likes to make comparison. Whose kid is more clever? Whose kid is more prettier? Whose kid is taller? She is in her fifties and I don't understand that why she still has to do so? Sometimes it made me felt that her EQ is abit low. Every child is unique ok. They will grow up differently. What is wrong with who is cleverer? who is prettier or who is taller? Will get prize one izit? Beh Tahan... A is also a grandmother herself. She likes to tell her MIL about who is sick and who is not well in her family. The MIL is a freak...worrying everything but herself. Why on earth make the old lady suffer over small petty matters? A small flu/ cough also need to tell the poor old lady? The poor old lady will come telling me that she can't sleep the entire night thinking about it.Damn it.
Why don't she tell the poor old lady what are the happy things that happens but telling her things that make her worry? A small problem she need to make it so big? When she did something wrong, why don't she go around telling everyone? Beh Tahan..X7

There a much more scenarios that I can provide but I think my blog is way too long...I just hope that those people can be more considerate and think for others. They will indirectly cause unhappiness to other people for not think before talk.

Pregnancy week 19

In a blink of time, it's my 19th week of pregnancy. Ultrasound scanning shows that its a boy. I am so gald that I am blessed with a baby boy since I had already a baby girl.All I wish is just a healthy baby.

My hypertension was under control as I am taking medication. As usual, I am not allowed to be too stressed and always to remain calm. This really helps to make me a really patience person nowadays. Unless there is something else that really errupts my temper.Haha

Baby is doing fine. Active as usual. Moving around non stop. I started to feel my baby's movement since week 16th but the movements are stronger now as week goes by. Sometimes, he is kicking kinda hard too! Just like the sister.

There is not much difference on my body changes yet as I just gained about 800g so far in my entire pregnancy. So far so good. Hope that I won't gain so much this pregnancy around. I am still big from my last pregnancy. There is a little bump on my abdomen now. Many people claim that my belly is quite small for a 4 1/2 mth pregnancy. I don't get a big belly when I had Xinye. Maybe as what people says, I got big butt..Haha...baby got place to hide.

Went to baby fair last weekend to see what can I get hold for my newborn. Not much that interest me although they are giving a good bargain. Bought a set of pillow and bolsters, some breast pad, bib, bottle wash....etc...I don't really need much stuffs for this round of pregnancy as I already had them on my last.Phew....

Stay tune for my next update....

Friday, August 13, 2010

Gender Issue - XY or YY?

I am currently in my 17 weeks of pregnancy. Everything is fine. Most important, mama is fine and baby is also fine. At this point of time, quite a number of people will come to me and ask me about my baby's gender. We would be able to tell at this stage. Thanks to high technology of Ultrasound.

Even though we can predict the baby's gender thought ultrasound, it sometimes also depends on luck as well. Why do I say so? Your baby could be too shy to show you his/her genitals. Haha...They could be in certain positions which makes you unable to determine their gender.

Is knowing the gender of the baby that important? Mayb to rich families where they need a boy to secure part of the family's property but to me, as long as the baby is healthy, what can I ask for more?

I am blessed with a beautiful princess 2 years ago. If you ask me frankly, once you have a girl, definetely you wish to have a boy. But all these can't be true. Not all wishes can be fulfilled. Once again, I wish.... Anyway, as mentioned earlier, I wish to have a healthy baby. Boy or girl, its god given.

It seems like I blab too much and I still have not reveal my baby's gender. Make a wild guess and I will reveal it in my next update.Stay tune...